If you’ve spent any time on social media lately, you’ve probably seen people describing themselves (or their partners) as “anxious,” “avoidant,” or—if they’re lucky—“secure.” The language of Attachment Theory has gone mainstream, offering a compelling way to make sense of how we connect, pursue, withdraw, and protect ourselves in relationships. In many ways, this is a positive shift. People are becoming more psychologically minded. They’re asking better questions about patter